If any of you have family, or friends who are in a Nursing home, PLEASE go by once in a while to check on them. Don’t call, just GO!! Some facilities are really good, and some are horror chambers!

Patients may not be getting the correct medicines, or could be getting them in the wrong doses. Also, patients are sometimes left sitting in chairs in the hallways ALL DAY LONG, with hardly anyone giving them a second thought.

There are many patients who turn on their “call” buttons, only to be ignored. They are sometimes left soiled for hours and hours, while the aides who are supposed to be taking care of them, are in the hallways giggling with each other, at the desk on personal phone calls, or just chatting about anything, and everything, EXCEPT the patients.

So many times the patient’s laundry “accidentally” gets lost, (especially the nicer things) and they never seem to get it back. That is a feat in itself, since they are supposed to TAG the clothes IMMEDIATELY. Smh…

On the other hand, there are also GREAT facilities, with great staff, where everyone does their job, and the patients are well taken care of. Thank you to those PROFESSIONALS. You could probably teach the rest of them something.

So take a couple of hours to pay a visit to someone who it would mean the world to, and possibly even give them the will to keep going. For some, that is all they need not to give up!

If you can wait in a line overnight for shoes, computers, and concert tickets, then you can SURELY spare a couple of hours to take a loved one a meal, some flowers, a card, or just sit and visit, so that they know that someone cares.

Give it a try!

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To all the young-uns! It felt good, didn’t it?…

But did you ever stop to think that during all that “feeling good”, that you neglected to use a condom? That you hadn’t been taking your Birth Control pills correctly? Now that “feel good” has come back and put you, and your family, in the position of taking on the responsibility of something that you could have prevented in the first place, with just a little thought, or consideration for the consequences. And now, because it “felt good”, you are expecting a baby.


Do you have a job? Your own place? A car, or other mode of transportation? Can you buy diapers for your child? Milk? A crib? Are you able to buy blankets, bottles, undershirts, a diaper bag, car seat, socks, pajamas, medicine, pacifier, teething ring, toys? After that, can you afford school supplies, school clothes, vaccinations, dr. visits, summer clothes, winter coat, boots, the school trip, school pictures, money for the bake sale, money for the class snack that you have to bring once a month? And beyond that, will you be able to pay for senior pictures, the senior trip, graduation, and college? Probably not, because you were only thinking of YOURSELF, and what YOU wanted.


How nice it was of you, and your significant other, (or was it just your “fly by night” date?) to put the burden of YOUR whole new family on your parents. Since YOU are unable to do it, who do you think the responsiblity falls to? These items don’t fall out of the sky! SOMEONE has to purchase them–it’s not either of you, so who then? Once again, probably your parents. Wow, what fun that must be for them! To go out and have to buy all of the things they had to buy 20 years ago to take care of you, and now they get to do it all again, for YOUR child, because you were too selfish, arrogant, proud, ignorant (take your pick!) to use protection, when there is so much of it around.


You are SUCH an adult, huh? You can run around MAKING babies, but don’t have the wherewithal to take care of one. You’re the bad ass who can scream in your parent’s face about how grown you are, but when your child needs something, who is the first person you call? Yo MAMA, or yo DADDY, and in some cases your Grandmama!! 


Why do you young people not think of these things? Why do you not care enough to take ONE SMALL precaution to PREVENT this? Whatever happened to sex being the LAST step in a relationship, as opposed the the now seemingly FIRST step in one? Sex used to be SPECIAL between a man and a woman, and people waited until they were married, or at least COMMITTED, before they embarked on this part of the relationship. Now, all you hear after 4 kids, and 3 “babymommas”, is, “Marriage? Oh, I ain’t READY fa datt”. OH…so you’re not READY??? …but you were ready to get ‘busy’, or “jump off” because he or she “looked good”. Boy…..good reason to put your family through picking up the pieces or your ‘feel good” time, huh?


If you are one of the few that IS prepared, and are a REAL adult, then more power to you! But if you can’t take care of any of this, because you are unemployed, uneducated, living in your parents’ house, asking them for money, needing someone to give you a ride all the time, etc… then YOU ARE NOT READY, so keep your zipper UP, and that nickel between your KNEES!


Your parents are in their 40’s, 50’s, or even their 60’s in some cases, have raised their own children, and worked hard to do so, but now they have to do it all again, just because it ‘felt good” and you had to get your ‘freak’ on. Wow.


Tell me now….does it still feel good?

Used, abused, the warning signs, and why it’s NEVER ok!

I know we all have a girlfriend, (or guy friend) whose S/O will not let them out of their sight. Tells them what to do, where to go, reads their text messages and emails, listens while they are on the phone, and makes sure to be in the room whenever you, or anyone else visits.

I feel so sad for the people who find themselves in these situations. Usually they are already  in it very deeply before they realize the person is possessive or abusive, and sometimes they are just too afraid to leave. Often times the abuser has threatened you, as well as your family, and/or friends, with harm, (and you know they’ll DO it, because they have a track record of being violent) so there just seems to be no way out.

The biggest thing to remember is, if you take stand with a guy (or girl) the FIRST time they start acting strange (pushy, insistant, or angry for no reason) CHECK THEM, FIRMLY, and IMMEDIATELY!! They will either back up, and know you don’t play that, or they will move on—which is best for YOU! If you let it slide the first time, they will take it from YOU that you are weak, or EASY TO CONTROL, then it REALLY begins!

They start with “I’m sorry baby, I’m not really like that” — BULLSH!T!!! They ARE like that, and know that talking sweet, and saying that they didn’t mean it, will reel you in. DON’T BE THAT STUPID!!

Don’t let them talk you into getting a cell phone “that you can only use just for them”, (and make you think it is YOUR idea). Don’t accept a major gift early on in the relationship, and for God’s sake, DO NOT GIVE THEM ANY MONEY!!!!! (I mean a 10 or 20 here and there for gas, or because they are a few pennies short for something might be ok), but when they NEVER have any money, can’t ever pay for dinner, a movie, ALWAYS needs a “ride”, or money for “lunch”, child support, their cell bill, car payment, insurance, rent, etc… RUN, don’t walk, to the nearest EXIT!!!

If if gets to the point of physical violence, and you have to call the police, FOLLOW THROUGH!!! Don’t be the idiot who lets them “sweet” talk you into “dropping the charges”, because that just lets them know that they can do whatever they want to you, and you will never do anything about it. They will treat you worse each time after that. Hence the saying – “Do it ONCE, shame on YOU. Do it TWICE, shame on ME!”

If you meet a guy in a club, and he INSISTS on “coming over” that night, even after you have said NO, or he ‘decides’ that he will “take you to breakfast” first thing in the morning since he can’t come over, (because he is just SOOOOO ‘head over heels’ after ONE meeting), CUT HIM LOOSE! Don’t even give him your number, and for GOD’s sake, don’t tell him where you work! (Same thing if it’s a pushy lady, fellas…)

If you like the person, and think that there may be something there, then set up a date for several days later. Maybe meet them at the coffee shop on Thursday, and then, if you think things are going well, give them your email address, and tell them that you want to take it slowly. Any person that wants a HEALTHY relationship will think that that it just fine! They won’t push for more, and if they DO, that just shows that they are selfish, thinking of themselves only, and used to getting their own way, without caring how YOU feel about ANYTHING! If that happens, you will be oh so happy that you didn’t let them come to your home, give them your number, or tell them where you work.

When they want to introduce you to their children right away, and try to put you in a ‘parental’ role with children that you’ve just met, or want to start spending taking “family” trips a week after meeting you, it’s probably because they are trying to force you into the relationship that best suits THEM, not you. When you agree to something like that too soon, then they have found their “mark”. so stand firm if it is something that you feel funny about, or uncomfortable with.

Don’t let this happen to you. Be smart, not desperate. Fall in love, not lust. Make sure that if you are looking for a long term, or forever partner in life, that you WAIT until you know that the person has ALL (or at least MOST) of the characteristics that you want in a mate.

I could go on, but I wont. I think you get the idea.

I’m not an expert, just a person who has been through a lot in my life, and hopes to help others who haven’t.

Take care all, and Happy Blogging!

Xoxo, Gramma D 🙂